Many of us have a continual narrative that runs through our head from to-do lists, observations on fellow drivers, thoughts about the weather, internal dialogue with ourselves.
Think of some of the things you say to yourself:
I don't have time
I don't feel like it
I will feel like it tomorrow
Why is this happening to me?
Why does everything take so much effort?
Why am I always behind?
While these negative thoughts might not completely go away, we want to tame these thoughts with some positive self talk. Think of yourself as your own personal coach!
Positive self-talk may not change a stressful situation, but it will help reframe it or help you look at it in a different way. Phrases like "I have no idea where to start" can shift to "I can figure this out".
Step #1 to Positive Self-Talk: Notice Your Negative Thoughts
Be a gentle observer of your negative thoughts. If you are newer to this, pay attention to hyperbole-types of words: always, never, thousands, everything, nothing. Be kind to yourself as you do this.
Step #2 to Positive Self-Talk: Choose Positive Words and Phrases
Choose positive words and phrases.
Follow the examples below and add your name where the blanks are
Say it in different ways: whisper it, shout it, say it fast, say it slowly, say it while you are washing your hands or riding your bike or waiting at a stoplight. Repeat it over and over!
Here's an example: You've got this, Nicole!
Try saying these phrases out loud to help coach yourself:
_________________, you can do anything for 2 minutes!
_________________, you have gotten through other challenges, and you will get through this, too!
_________________, you will be okay!
You've got this, _________________!
You can figure this out, _________________!
If you still need some help with positive self-talk, I'll share my belief in you: You've got this!
You might also enjoy my FREE guide: How to Motivate Yourself Even When You Don't Feel Like It! It's a guide that I refer to on those days when I need a little lift.